Keeping a healthy attitude toward others is aligned with a pure heart toward God. How can we have a cold and insensitive core and yet express anything differently to another person. The highest priority in life is to have a right relationship with God. It helps to remember; it is not we that have pure love, but the love of God living in and through us that effects the people in our lives. Our effort then, is to stay connected and leave the influence for good be surrendered to God and His good judgment.